Finding the Right Partner

Message / Question

Is it correct to say it’s easier for Christian men to find a suitable partner than the other way around? Why are all the good ones are married? And most others, either unattractive or have some other sort of issue...

Response:

It does seem in most churches that the number of “eligible” females exceeds the number of “eligible” males, so from a numbers perspective it would appear easier for Christian men to find a suitable partner than for women to do the same. Yet, despite the stats, I certainly know of some “good ones” from both gender groups who are NOT married. Why it happens that some people seem to have more difficulty than others in finding a life partner is a hard question to answer. In fact, I would suggest that there would be as many reasons as there are people! The individual Christian needs to finds God’s will for their life in this regard – entering a relationship outside of God’s purpose, would certainly be unadvisable and very risky. To say that the “others” are unattractive is a pretty big statement – I guess that I would want you to define “unattractive”. The attraction of one person to another, should never be based on appearance, after all, Jesus Himself is described as having “...no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.” (Isa 53:2 – NIV). The true beauty or attractiveness of a person is found a lot deeper inside than simple the way they look.